Belated sexuality post
May. 21st, 2010 05:23 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sub_dividedI wish I'd waited to make the switch to Dreamwidth until after writing a few personal posts... specifically, until after writing a post about R, and how I do realize how weird it is that after never having even mentioned that I might not be straight, I suddenly was not only dating a girl, but sharing her opinions in all of my journal entries.
For what it's worth, R feels that she is misrepresented in my journal, because I only ever seem to quote her saying things that I am unable to work into the flow of an entry myself. In this view she is a kind of literary device whereby I can incorporate a diverging opinion without necessarily endorsing it. XD; Well, fair enough.
Again in her opinion, she is actually much sillier than I make her out to be. She thinks that I write her too formally and without enough focus on her strange sense of humor. All true, probably... I've told her, though, that it's not because people on my flist resent her (unless you do? *squints*) that no one has asked for more information about her.
No, it's because I haven't introduced her properly. And people on livejournal (and in general) don't like to comment on things they don't know about. Thus, the onus is on me to describe her in such a way that she appears to be a real person that other people might care about - a writer's problem.
Anyway this post was supposed to be bout why I never came out on livejournal. There's not really much to say. I guess it seemed tacky while I was still struggling with my sexuality, but that was as much (unacknowledged) distaste as anything. Afterwards, when I was more accepting, I still didn't say anything. I guess I always thought that only two people kinds of people discuss their sexuality online: those who are dead certain of it and past caring what others think, and those who have no one to talk it over with privately. And I wasn't the first, so I was obviously the second. So, therefore, talking about my sexuality online would be like admitting that I had no friends. :p Or something like that.
For what it's worth, R feels that she is misrepresented in my journal, because I only ever seem to quote her saying things that I am unable to work into the flow of an entry myself. In this view she is a kind of literary device whereby I can incorporate a diverging opinion without necessarily endorsing it. XD; Well, fair enough.
Again in her opinion, she is actually much sillier than I make her out to be. She thinks that I write her too formally and without enough focus on her strange sense of humor. All true, probably... I've told her, though, that it's not because people on my flist resent her (unless you do? *squints*) that no one has asked for more information about her.
No, it's because I haven't introduced her properly. And people on livejournal (and in general) don't like to comment on things they don't know about. Thus, the onus is on me to describe her in such a way that she appears to be a real person that other people might care about - a writer's problem.
Anyway this post was supposed to be bout why I never came out on livejournal. There's not really much to say. I guess it seemed tacky while I was still struggling with my sexuality, but that was as much (unacknowledged) distaste as anything. Afterwards, when I was more accepting, I still didn't say anything. I guess I always thought that only two people kinds of people discuss their sexuality online: those who are dead certain of it and past caring what others think, and those who have no one to talk it over with privately. And I wasn't the first, so I was obviously the second. So, therefore, talking about my sexuality online would be like admitting that I had no friends. :p Or something like that.
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Date: 2010-05-21 10:53 pm (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2010-05-22 12:50 am (UTC)Anyway, I was very happy for you when you started dating and am happy that you are doing so well together! <3
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